by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
Every month, the "Romance
Reverend" shares her sage insights on relationships
and getting ready for soulful love! Send your
questions to RomanceRev@SoulfulLiving.com.
The Romance Reverend's Soul Mate Tips
Canít Hurry LoveÖ
It Will Happen In its Right Moment
I am so hungry for love that I can taste it. Iíve
done all the spiritual work, the emotional work and the
logistical work. I am ready for love. But love does not
seem ready for me. Where have I gone wrong? How come I
am still alone?
--Roslind, Wappingers Falls, NY
Your time just has not yet come. It could be any day
now; any hour. You may find love on the next corner you
turn. Part of the package with truly soulful love is
that it has itís own scheduleÖ itís own rhyme and
reason. Being alone at this moment in time does not
equal failure, nor does it signal that love will never
come. May I suggest you adjust your attitude and try to
step into sync with the way your romantic universe is
flowingÖ and see what happens!
Sometimes, before true love arrives, we are asked to
just be present in our own lives so that we are
completely awakened, aware and ready when true love
comes. We are asked not to busy ourselves with Ďsearching"
and not to engage in things that are distracting, but to
live our lives with joy and go with the flow. On some
occasions, the one who we are meant to love is not yet
readyÖ has not done all that must be done in order for
you two to be together. But this could all change very
quickly. When your time comes, it will all change in an
instant Ė which is why it is so important for soulful
lovers to do the kind of healing work you have been
doing Ė on all levels.
Consider that everything you have done up until this
moment has been preparing you for soulful love. Every
relationship that didnít work, and every heartbreak
youíve known or felt responsible for, is part of the
building blocks toward true love. Rather than worrying
about the relationship that has yet to come, or
harboring any regrets over romances past, congratulate
yourself for surviving loveís battlefield and for
still being willing to open your heart! Allow yourself
to trust that perhaps there is a greater plan for you;
know that sometimes the greater plan take time.
This time of yearning for love is a powerful part of
this journey. It allows you to stand in the vestibule of
true love, and prepare yourself to walk through Loveís
door. I always view these times of yearning and hunger
as Spiritís way of preparing us for love.
© Copyright 2001
Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All Rights
The Romance Reverend's Tips on How
To Utilize and Honor Your Yearning To Be With Your Soul
If you are feeling lonely, filled with desire and
longing to FINALLY MEET YOUR SOUL MATE, congratulations!
You are in the exact right place. Donít be afraid of
these feelings; know that they are indicators that you
are on the right path. One of the most important parts
of the process of opening to a soul mate is that deep
yearning you feel. Itís the hunger to be in the
embrace of your beloved that gives you the feeling of
loneliness. It brings up fears, sadness, questions, and
self-inquiries that are designed to further illumine
your path. Yearning -- and owning up to that feeling --
is what brings you closer, because it presses you to
look deeper into yourself for answers rather than
looking externally. It is important to:
* Use this period of yearning as a time for inner
work and exploration. Try not to jump off into the
external activities and "fillers" that
distract you from doing the inner work that is getting
you ready for your soul mate.
* Surrender to that "aching." Itís okay
to ache for love. Donít hide from it in drinking,
over-eating, compulsive shopping, compulsive
"doing," and running around looking for ways
to stay busy.
* Try not to fill your dance card up with dates with
people who you know are not right for you. Donít date
just for the sake of dating.
* Use this time sit back and just allow the energy of
transformation to sweep through your life and heal those
things that would be in the way of your love
relationship with your soul mate.
* Own the conflicts and fears, because they will help
you break through to a higher ground. Itís on the
higher ground where your soul mate is also searching for
How Can You Happily Enjoy Your Time As a Soulful Single?
© Copyright 2001
Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All Rights Reserved.
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Reverend Laurie Sue's Past Columns:
2001 "Family Rituals Help Us Grow into Loving
2001 - "Dreams Warn It's Time to Own Your Own
2001 - "A Fun Visual of Your Perfect Romance"
2001 - "Someday Your Mystical Soul Mate Will Come"
2001 - "Enjoy the Merriment and Fun of An Ancient Love
2001 - "Nourish Yourself on a Date for One"
2001 - "Get Ready for Soulful Love"
Reverend Laurie Sue
Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy
person who specializes in matters of the heart and soul.
As an ordained interfaith minister and
non-denominational wedding officiant, it is her honor to
regularly marry couples in love. Prior to becoming a
minister she enjoyed a successful and colorful 20 years
in media as a widely published journalist, editor and
author of eight books on relationships and
romanceóas well as being a noted spokesperson
on those topics. She was editor-in-chief of two national
magazines and several regional publications, and her
articles have been published around
the world and in many newspapers and national magazines,
such as the NY Daily News, The Washington Post,
Womenís News, New Woman, Ladiesí
Home Journal and Child. She evolved years of
specialized reporting in the field of male-female
relationship dynamics into a more spiritual pursuit that
led her to train to be an interfaith minister, and then
establish her wedding ministry along with her popular
relationship enhancement programs.
She continues to write on weddings, soul mates and enhancing relationships,
as well as teach on those topics. She's on the faculty of The Seminar Center
and MyPotential.com. and trains other ministers through World Light
Fellowship. She is a graduate of the New Seminary and a member of The
Association of Interfaith Ministers. Her wedding ministry is based in New