by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
Every month, the "Romance
Reverend" shares her sage insights on relationships
and getting ready for soulful love! Send your
questions to RomanceRev@SoulfulLiving.com.
Soulful Love Reminders
Dreams Warn It’s Time To Own Your Power
I am new to spirituality. About a year and a
half ago I met my soul mate. After running into each
other a lot, we went out on a date. Knowing up front he
was seeing someone off and on for 8 years, I still went
ahead with it. On our first date, I could feel the
energy between us when we touched. It led to a year and
a half down the road ... and here we are. Our souls have
joined and it's just getting stronger, but there have
been up's and down's because of the female he was
involved with. She has a lot of power in her
spirituality from what I understand, and they share a
spiritual bond. She wants him to be there, but wants to
do her own thing on her own time and she is not there
for him. I have been having very strong, very real
dreams with meaning; first it was a soul in my home
trying to get my attention but I wouldn't open up and
they went away. Then I had this powerful dream where
there is definitely a presence in my house, making
themselves known to the fullest, doing thing's to mess
with my mind, closing doors, rustling the curtains
putting water all over the floor and then making it dry
as can be when I walk back in the room... crazy stuff. I
told my soul mate about the dream, and he said the other
female he is involved with is doing this to me. The
question I have: is it possible this female has the
power to do thing's like this and send people to me in
First off, I cannot stress enough how important it is
to recognize that no one has power over us or can
do anything to us without our permission. If you ever
feel there is some psychic interference in your life,
pray to the Divine in anyway you are comfortable and ask
for peace in your dreams, and for a clearer
understanding of what your dreams are telling you. I am
not an expert on dreams but I do know that some of us
get messages and insights while we sleep, and it is
helpful to keep track and write them down by keeping a
dream journal by your bed. Don’t judge the dreams,
just record them, and find someone to help you interpret
them when you are ready. Often a dream is material from
the subconscious that is begging us to pay attention. It
sounds to me that you are getting some information about
a part of you that feels unsettled, invaded and out of
control. As much as I can understand your love for this
man, I urge you to tell yourself the truth about how you
feel about "sharing him" with a hungry ghost
from he relationships past. It sounds to me like your
"soul mate" has to take some responsibility.
Although it is completely possible that soul mates may
meet while involved with others, it is utterly
impossible that a relationship can grow into full
fruition when one partner is still involved intimately
with someone from their past; often times, the energetic
links of past love are strong enough to interfere with
building anything new. It could be your man truly feels
the other woman has spiritual power over him… but I
bet on a deeper look you will find some strong
co-dependent bonds that he refuses to relinquish. That’s
his prerogative, but you need to take a good hard look
at whether this is the way you choose to live. There is
always hope; and where there is love, miracles bloom.
But let Mr. Soul Mate take responsibility for himself
and his actions and own up to the reality he is
choosing. You must assess your own path and truth and
not be influenced by his.
From the spiritual perspective, as we open to spirit
and learn how to commune with our own Divine nature,
many new channels of communication open; sometimes when
we are so open we pick up irregular signals that are not
really signals we want in our lives. On the chance that
you have opened to some unsettling psychic vibrations,
neutralize them by praying for assistance and
protection, and clearly stating you are only open to
insights and energies of the highest source. Bless
yourself before you go to sleep and ask for the loving
light of the Divine to surround you as you sleep.
The Romance Rev’s
Soulful Love Reminders
"Many of us
function as if we are only half complete. If we project
the vibration of half of an individual, looking around
for someone else to complete us, we attract an
incomplete relationship. The resulting interaction with
anyone attracted in this manner will usually come up
short of what we ideally desire."
~ Ken Page, from his
Heart and Soul Healing Newsletter
Last month we talked about "taking on" a
summer love consciousness and for many months we have
explored ways to invite soulful love into our lives. My
own beloved sent me the above quote from relationship
expert Ken Page www.kenpage.com
and it reminded me that while we "await"
soulful lovers it is wise to do all we possibly can to
get ready for love. You’ve heard these from me before!
The following tips are just reminders of how to shape up
for the love of your life.
DON'T HATE BEING SINGLE. Use times of longing and
yearning for love to prepare for a new relationship.
Assess the state of your life and begin to create the
life you want to be leading – even if there is no one
to share it with yet.
HEAL AND MOVE ON FROM THE PAST. Liberate yourself
from obstacles that stand in the way of love by healing
old heartaches, relationships and self-sabotaging
relationship patterns. Now is the time to make decisions
about letting go of any relationships that no longer
CLEAN UP YOUR LIFE. Start with a draw; don’t
stop until you’ve removed physical clutter, junk, old
memories and memorabilia from you environment.
Acknowledge what’s out of place in your life –
physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and
financially – and take action to put things into
balance. Pay off debts, deal with old paperwork, and
take full charge of your life. True love can’t hope to
find you if your life is too cluttered.
EVOKE THE ENERGY OF LOVE. Write, visualize, pray,
and express gratitude for love as if it is already in
your life. Make collages of pictures of couples in love,
make wish lists, write stories about the relationship
you choose; use any creative tools you are comfortable
with to ask for all the Divine help you can get! And
daydream… spend your idle time just dreaming about the
love your desire.
BECOME SOUL-MATE FRIENDLY. Make an effort to
ditch old baggage, disempowering beliefs, neediness and
worry that can block or disable your ability to discern
true love – or even a good romantic opportunity –
from inappropriate relationships that come in misleading
packaging. If you take the time to enjoy single life,
heal from past relationship mishaps and give thought to
the love you really want, it will be much easier for
your soulful lover to find you!
When you day dream about love... do you see what your soul mate looks like?
Describe that person.
© Copyright 2001
Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All Rights Reserved.
Reverend Laurie Sue's Current Column
Reverend Laurie Sue's Past Columns:
2001 - "A Fun Visual of Your Perfect Romance"
2001 - "Someday Your Mystical Soul Mate Will Come"
2001 - "Enjoy the Merriment and Fun of An Ancient Love
2001 - "Nourish Yourself on a Date for One"
2001 - "Get Ready for Soulful Love"
Reverend Laurie Sue
Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy
person who specializes in matters of the heart and soul.
As an ordained interfaith minister and
non-denominational wedding officiant, it is her honor to
regularly marry couples in love. Prior to becoming a
minister she enjoyed a successful and colorful 20 years
in media as a widely published journalist, editor and
author of eight books on relationships and
romance—as well as being a noted spokesperson
on those topics. She was editor-in-chief of two national
magazines and several regional publications, and her
articles have been published around
the world and in many newspapers and national magazines,
such as the NY Daily News, The Washington Post,
Women’s News, New Woman, Ladies’
Home Journal and Child. She evolved years of
specialized reporting in the field of male-female
relationship dynamics into a more spiritual pursuit that
led her to train to be an interfaith minister, and then
establish her wedding ministry along with her popular
relationship enhancement programs.
She continues to write on weddings, soul mates and enhancing relationships,
as well as teach on those topics. She's on the faculty of The Seminar Center
and MyPotential.com. and trains other ministers through World Light
Fellowship. She is a graduate of the New Seminary and a member of The
Association of Interfaith Ministers. Her wedding ministry is based in New