Balancing Your Wheel of Life
Perhaps too much of everything is as bad as too little.
Imagine your life as a what the Buddhists refer to as
the “wheel of life” and you are its “hub,” or center.
Each spoke on your wheel represents a different aspect
of your life: relationships, work, health, finances,
spiritual growth, social activities and so forth. Is
your wheel balanced, or are one of the spokes getting
more attention than the rest? Like a wheel that is meant
to rotate smoothly with each revolution, we are happiest
when our lives are flowing smoothly because we are in
know when you’re out of balance; life will feel heavy,
your energy will be lower than usual and your enthusiasm
for life may be missing. The problem may not necessarily
be that there’s anything wrong, but that you’re overly
focused on one area while neglecting others that are
equally important to your well-being. Which area might
that be, you wonder? Well, it’s usually the one that
you’re constantly thinking about, worrying about and
probably talking about. Most likely it’s the one that
your friends are tired of hearing about!
Sometimes we need to put the majority of our focus on
one area while we’re working through something critical.
This might include a recovery process or addressing some
issue or crisis that needs our attention right now.
However, that is usually the exception.
example, a few months ago, I delved into a three month
period of intense meditation and spiritual practice. For
ninety days I meditated upon waking, in the
mid-afternoon, before dinner, and right before going to
bed at night. I completely changed my schedule to
accommodate all of the meditations and contemplation
because I felt a strong desire to connect with my
deepest self and to experience some significant internal
shifts, which I did. However, I could not have kept up
that pace forever. After ninety days it was time for me
to reduce the amount of spiritual practice and integrate
the other areas of my life back into my “wheel.”
Spending time with others, working with clients,
traveling, having fun--these are all integral to my
living life to its fullest and having a sense of
balance. The ninety days of intense spiritual practice
was akin to fasting for it allowed me to release what no
longer served my highest good which led to a more
I’m teaching workshops and pose the question, “Where are
you most out of balance?” The response I typically here
is, “I’m not having enough fun.” As summer unfolds and
we’re touched by longer days of sunshine, notice if it’s
time to add more fun into your life. The color yellow
matches the color of the sun and symbolizes the
qualities of humor, playfulness and cheer. It reminds us
to “lighten up.” If it’s time for you to experience more
lightness in your life, be willing to create a better
balance. Develop and focus on the spokes in your wheel
of life that have been neglected. Attaining balance
adds greater harmony and helps us to be hopeful and
optimistic about the good in our lives. Vital optimism
is a quality that runs deep in us; it's a belief that
the best is yet to come.
© Copyright 2005
Laura Grace. All Rights Reserved.
Read Laura's Past Columns:
- "Imaginary Borders"
2005 - "Witnessing the Truth About Your Life"
2004 - "Letting Go"
2004 - "Progressing with Passion"
2004 - "Deepening Your Spiritual Practice"
2004 - "Life's Crossroads: Love-vs-Fear"
January-February 2004 - "Faith the Foundation for Every
2003 Column - "Touching the Heart of Others"
2003 Column - "Knowing How to Care for Yourself"
2003 Column - "Dreaming a Happy Life"
2003 Column - "Living the Authentic Life"
2003 Column - "Rising Above the Battleground"
2003 Column - "Healing Through Your
2003 Column - "Are You Going with the Flow?"
2003 Column - "Living the Soulful Life"
2002 Column - "The Power to Change"
2002 Column - "Peace Begins at Home"
Column - "Spiraling to Higher Ground"
September 2002 Column - "Cradled in Nature's
August 2002 Column - "Recovering
Laura Grace is Co-founder of Infinite Wisdom, an organization dedicated to the highest human capacity, and a national author and speaker.
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