Touching the Heart of Others
Teach no one that
he is what you would not want to be. Your brother is the
mirror in which you see the image of yourself. --A
Course in Miracles
Perhaps the most powerful way we can
transform and achieve healing in our relationships is to
BE exactly what we WANT.
Since like attracts like we can only benefit from
thinking and behaving in ways that match what we most
desire. As we become more accepting of ourselves and
others, more willing to be truly honest, and take
responsibility for our lives, the universe will send
those whom mirror these same uplifting and illuminating
qualities. Thus being a role model for others—being
the change—is a potent way to uplift and evolve
our relationships. So, right now, take a moment to
visualize and feel the essences of what you most want in
In my own life, some of the qualities I appreciate in
relationship are captured from the heartfelt words on a
poster recently given to me by a friend titled, "I’m
A Life Toucher." This enlightening placard hangs in
my office and was created by motivational speaker Bill
Sanders. "I’m a Life Toucher" demonstrates
that all of us are teaching others in one way or another
for we are always leading through example.
Some of the differences between ordinary
"teaching" versus being a "Life Toucher"
||Are the examples
|Teach a subject
||Are subject to touching lives while
|Try to change others
|Sometimes get bitter
||Get better and better
|Don’t like to change
||Change what they don’t like (by
changing the way they look at it)
|Are interested in teaching
||Are interesting as teachers
|Talk the message
||Walk the message
Though the above may seem to relate to traditional
teaching, it actually pertains to each of us. Becoming
clear of the example we’re setting and taking
responsibility for it is essential if we desire to
create healthy relationships rich with intimacy, joy,
trust and passion. Some soulful questions to consider
- What kind of relationships do you want and what is
keeping you from having them?
- Are you ready to discover the more genuine
"you", and are you willing to share your
- Are you willing to embrace a new way of living, one
that completely honors who you are?
- Do you feel deserving of having relationships that
support you in your highest good?
- Are you willing to let go of patterns that are
keeping you from being the person you were born to be?
- Do you believe the time is now for you
to truly be what you want?
A dear friend once shared how she gave up an
addiction by reminding herself to "never quit
quitting." We can always start anew, right here,
right now. Today is the perfect day for being a Life
Toucher—the ideal time for taking an honest inventory
of our relationships, letting go of past resentments,
asking for healing, and enjoying the rich rewards that
result from having the courage to do so. So go ahead,
reach out and "touch" someone today…!
© Copyright 2003
Laura Grace. All Rights Reserved.
Read Laura's Past Columns:
2003 Column - "Knowing How to Care for Yourself"
2003 Column - "Dreaming a Happy Life"
2003 Column - "Living the Authentic Life"
2003 Column - "Rising Above the Battleground"
2003 Column - "Healing Through Your
2003 Column - "Are You Going with the Flow?"
2003 Column - "Living the Soulful Life"
2002 Column - "The Power to Change"
2002 Column - "Peace Begins at Home"
Column - "Spiraling to Higher Ground"
September 2002 Column - "Cradled in Nature's
August 2002 Column - "Recovering
Laura Grace is Co-founder of Infinite Wisdom, an organization dedicated to the highest human capacity, and a national author and speaker. As a regular contributor for publications across the U.S. and Canada, Laura writes about human awareness and spiritual growth. Laura is the author of the widely acclaimed books The Intimate Soul and Gifts of the Soul, and the creator and teacher of various programs including the Self-Mastery Program, The Art of Compassionate Forgiveness, Wonderful Women: Reclaiming Our Power, Passion and Purpose, and Cultivating the Intimate Life. Please visit Laura's web site at:
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