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Try on the
"State" of Summer Love… Just For Fun!
A
warm, insidious ache blossomed slowly inside her.
She
heard herself moan with soft pleasure and delight,
as
Blake’s Hand gently stroked her flesh.
Beneath
his palms she felt herself fill with desire.
~From
Runaway Love
I remember when I first read that passage from a
romance novel, I wondered: Who is this Blake character
and is he available for a summer share (of my body) for
July and August? The year was 1984, and I had penciled
in only one appointment for two hot and breezy months…
Summer Love.
Some seventeen years later, I am thinkin’ … that’s
what is missing from the lives of us soulful, adult
women. We take love so seriously… we work so
hard to get it right. What would happen if we
could get into that old summer love consciousness and
toss our cares, old broken hearts and most of our
relationship expectations to the wind? We’d be
liberated … and free to love without attachment or
expectation.
The idea is Summer Love, in its truest essence, is a
very Buddhist thing – no attachments, and full
acceptance that it will end, sometime. Along the way we
make it point to have as much fun, excitement, new
experiences, passion and joy we can. We don’t worry
about the consequences and we have no expectations of
the outcome. Traditionally, with Summer Love we are not
imagining who we’ll invite to the wedding by the third
date – unlike, admit it, the non-summer soul mate
season when a third date inspires thoughts of "this
could be it!"
For all you girls at heart, I suggest a break from
seriousness, and a fling with lighthearted love. When
you take the charge off finding the perfect love, and
are willing to indulge in a little carefree romance, you
will be surprised how much easier it may be to see love
and relationships in a new light that supports your long
term goals.
I asked some friends to remember Summer Love. Most of
them remembered it as being that magical summer fling in
camp, in a resort community, or during the last vacation
they took with their parents. Back then, daring was
French kissing beneath the moonlight, and staying out
past midnight without permission. But there is no law
that says we responsible, grown up soulful females can’t
have our own adult version of summer love.
Just consider it Advanced Summer Love, and consider
yourself duly entitled to as much passion, romance and
fun as you can muster. "The whole point is to be
caught up in the romance and the heat of the moment, and
to be spontaneous," recalls my friend Charlotte,
for whom Summer Love was a prerequisite to college.
"There are a lot of spur of the moment adventures.
You don’t mind if he shows up unexpectedly at midnight
– you love it. At any other time, if a guy shows up
without calling, you break up with him for being
invasive! In fact, you don’t mind anything he does.
Time is short and nit-picking and trying to transform
him into the perfect man is just not an issue."
Imagine what could happen to our love lives if we
approached them from this Summer Love perspective: We’d
be in a state of surrender, which would make it a little
easier for True Love to find us. In winter, our
potential soul mates have to battle the winter bulge of
the armor covering our hearts, and slay the dragon of
our mindsets that says perfect love must look, behave
and feel a certain way. In the state of Summer Love, we
are lighter and airier!
Here are some guidelines for Advanced Summer Love
1. Pencil in ROMANCE in big red letters across your
calendar for July and August. This will be your first
symbolic gesture to the universe that "yes, I am
getting that loving feeling and I am opening to my
Summer Love."
2. Get into "summer love consciousness" and
include it as part of your spiritual practice. Meditate,
pray, visualize, and daydream about hot and passionate
summer days with an oh-so-special Summer Lover.
3. Be spontaneous and gain some mastery over your
issues about control and surrender. Learn to go with the
flow.
4. Use this list of the qualities of your ideal
summer love and read it every day for the next thirty
days; add in your own. By the time July rolls around,
true summer love will be getting closer!
Be sure to include on your list these essential
summer love qualities. (I’ve used the pronoun
"He," but feel free to adapt to your needs).
Your Summer Love:
- Glances at you in a way that makes you feel you are
the only two human beings on the planet.
- Communicates passion and appreciation with stunning
force.
- Can dissolve all your concerns and worries, as well
as inspire the ole’ "insidious ache" with
just one kiss.
- Is a breath-taking hunk of handsomeness and sexiness
in your eyes, with a body and manner that makes you want
to surrender to love.
- Has a master’s degree in sexual healing, Tantra
and the art of love.
- Is so passionate, romantic and alluring that even if
your favorite movie star called for a date, you wouldn’t
leave your Summer Love?
- For an entire summer he is yours – body, mind and
spirit – and your are his, and you revel in your own
vulnerability and willingness.
- You have frequent out of body experiences in his
presence.
- You really like him a lot
- He will say, more than once, "You are the most
beautiful (sexy, gorgeous, etc.) woman I have ever
seen," "I love the your spirit (soul, who you
are, etc.)," "Let’s do it somewhere
different tonight!"
Remember, it may seem like a summer fling, but Summer
Love Consciousness is actually an educational
experience. True, you many learn new things about the
human anatomy – on beaches and in beautiful natural
areas – but you will also learn how to lighten up
about love and expectations. Summer Love Consciousness
is a state of mind you can enter any time… your soul
mate will ultimately be ever so happy to meet you there,
in the land of carefree abandon, where love can speak
for itself and have a chance to grow.
Everyone has a favorite summer love story. what is yours?
Everyone has a favorite summer love story.
What is yours? |
