The Soul of Love
by Judith Sherven & James Sniechowski
 To be in relationship is to open to the hidden streams of feeling and intuition in each other, the unconscious shiftings that take us into areas of our individual and joined being that are beyond our imagination. These are soul stirrings that beckon from the other side of what already is. We see the soul not as a container but as a beacon, sometimes intense, sometimes a whisper, sometimes a demand, sometimes a tease, animated by a desire to bring us even closer by pointing out the way as well as what is in the way.
As a married couple of fifteen years we still have regular, long and intimate conversations, scheduled or spontaneous, during which we listen not just to ourselves and each other but to what is alive between us. We explore and witness that which makes us different from each other, the particularities that make us each who we really are, and marvel at how two distinct points of view co-create a third, the unity that is our relationship.
This is not necessarily pain-free. When inspired by the movements of the soul, love finds some of its deepest courage in seeking out old wounds, unforgotten slights, insecurities and fears, all of that within us that yearns to be loved and to be whole. When allowed to come to the surface, the unresolved pain is embraced and set free by the love we have evolved over the sixteen years we've been together, a love built upon respect for our differences, trust and willingness to go wherever our souls lead us, and a determination to provide for our own and each other's well-being.
We also delight in the soul as a wellspring of joy. We live in the country and very often, even in the winter, we take long walks along our winding road. We both know those moments when one of us catches a glimpse of the other unawares, nothing covering, just pure, unveiled radiance, and are filled with sweet feeling just to know that we are together.
The soul is also a window onto the universe. We attempt to stay conscious of not just the material universe spanning light-years and plunging to unimaginable depths inward. But also of the soul's weaving into an unceasing hum the innumerable relationships between all levels of life. That vibrating lattice of being that we do not see but feel is there, cannot put into words but sense as the underlying support of all that is...
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Copyright Barbara Wilder. This article was originally
published at our website, SoulfulLiving.com, in January 2003, as part of Soulful Living's "Living Soulfully" Issue.
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