Can Be A Good Thing
by Lorane Gordon
Many of us don't want to relive parts of our past
that may be painful, because we feel that the pain would
be far too much to bear. We do the same for others in
our life, not wanting to hurt them by bringing up
memories or truths, just in case they may have forgotten
them. We mistakenly feel that if we don't have the
conscious memory, we wonít feel the pain.
Unrecognized truths or painful memories swept under
the carpet, so we don't have to look at them and feel
the pain, can be like a deadly iceberg. We never know
how it will change our course or perhaps cause us to
crash and drown. Think of a river flowing smoothly on
the surface taking twists and turns and ending up
emptying into a far away ocean. Underneath this apparent
smooth surface are unseen boulders, trash and jagged
glass thrown from the shore, and boats that float down
the river. The unseen detours and pollution are there,
whether we see them or not. The river is being directed
by hidden obstacles, but cannot do anything about them
if it isn't aware of where these harbingers of
If we have an infection just under our skin, we are
constantly referring to it. We find ourselves touching
the painful spot constantly--the way our tongue will go
to a piece of food logged between our teeth. There is no
relief until the infection is purged. Yes, the lancing
and draining of the infection can be painful. Yes, the
idea of being cut into is scary, because we believe that
we wonít be able to bare the pain. But in order to rid
ourselves of this constant annoyance, this little pain
that continues to drain our energy and our attention
must be cleaned out once and for all.
Eckhart Tolle refers to this as the "Pain
Body." The Pain Body is different for different
people. Some people have more than others, but if we are
walking this earth we can be sure that we do have a pain
The Pain Body is composed of every hurt, every
slight, every thing in our lives, and perhaps things
even before this lifetime, that we perceive of as
negative. The Pain Body is there, whether we acknowledge
it or not.
Dr. Jeckell & Mr. Hyde
Ever find yourself overreacting to a situation that
seems benign on the surface and yet it causes you to
reel out of control? Youíre even shocked at your own
reaction. Ever been with a friend that you felt you knew
to be kind and even tempered and then watched them turn
into a totally different person because of something
that you thought of as a slight annoyance? These are
examples of the Pain Body. The fact is that the Pain
Body is there even if you donít talk about it, donít
think about it, donít refer to it, and even if youíve
never heard of it.
Which is better? Feeling a little bit of pain every
day--unacknowledged pain that drains our energy, fogs up
our thought processes, and keeps us from being all that
we can be--or freeing ourselves of it once and for all?
The process of dissolving the pain is relatively
simple. The key is that we must make the intention to do
so and thereby increase our awareness. Then we start to
watch ourselves and notice our thoughts and feelings.
Anytime we are angry, bored, restless, unhappy, tearful,
depressed, irritable, etc., it is an indication that we
are reacting from our Pain Body.
The difference between reacting from our Pain Body
and being completely taken over by it is like going from
a stubbed toe to an amputated limb. One feels like an
annoyance and the other can be life changing. We must
notice the stubbed toe in order to keep ourselves from
You see, the idea is to notice the Pain Body when we
feel the "stubbed toe" and to simply say to
ourselves, "this is my Pain Body and not me."
In doing this we begin to watch the feelings we are
having, rather than allowing these feelings to take us
over and then reacting from them.
This doesnít mean that we try and discover why we
are feeling pain. As a matter of fact just the opposite
is true. We donít have to know what caused the
feelings. We donít have to lie on a psychiatristís
couch to remember every little thing that ever happened
to us in order to be free of the pain. We donít have
to know the reason why. We just have to acknowledge the
fact that we are reacting from our Pain Body and
understand that it isnít really us, but the pain we
are carrying around that is causing the discomfort and
Strangely enough, when we are in the process of
watching and dissolving the Pain Body, we often have
those "light bulb" moments where we realize
what may have caused a particular feeling, phobia, or
general depression. Itís not that we are using the
mind to think about it, but just because we are in less
resistance, and therefore more relaxed, the information
has the "space" to enter. It is when we are
present and open that we become aware of the information
that has eluded us up to this point.
When we are angry, hurt or irritable, we have a
tendency to react from that emotional place. In doing
so, we often say or do something that can have negative
repercussions. We may strike out in a way that could
ruin a relationship, or cause unspeakable emotional
damage to someone we truly love. Even a stranger could
be the target of our intense projection of negative
emotion. Who deserves this kind of treatment? Do we?
When we react in this way we are doing double damage. We
are intensifying the energy of the existing pain and
adding to it as well.
Have you ever made an important decision when you
were coming from a place of intense hurt, rage or
jealousy? In looking back can you see how those
decisions added to the energy of the Pain Body and
changed the course of your life?
The beauty of noticing when the Pain Body is acting
up is that the process does two things. First, just by
recognizing that the feeling is triggered by the energy
of the pain we are carrying, we can begin to dissolve
that old energy. Second, because we are not reacting
from a place of that pain, we can stop creating further
By noticing that we are reacting from our Pain Body,
we free ourselves of the vicious circle that we find
ourselves in. We have the opportunity to stop hurting
others and ourselves. Our awareness increases and we
become available to the knowledge and information from
the highest part of who we really are. When we are
coming from that place there is no pain. In that place
we donít hurt others or ourselves. This is the place
of spontaneous right action. This is the place where we
feel our vitality, the place where we are free.
© Copyright 2002 Lorane Gordon. All Rights Reserved.
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