Mindfulness: Living in the Now
When we are
paying attention to what is, rather than what we
would like it to be, we are truly living in the present.
This is easier said than done. I have found this to be a
lifelong journey of accepting current reality without
having it squash my naturally optimistic personality.
If we can
accept people and situations for whom and what they are
in the moment, we have a clearer guidance system for
moving forward and for making conscious choices.
Back in the
80’s, I was teaching a course called DMA, founded by
Robert Fritz. It helped people move from where they were
to where they wanted to go. Much to my surprise, I began
to see how challenging it was for people to define their
current reality. Most people exaggerated it better or
worse. How many times have you said, “My life is falling
apart,” ” I am fabulous,” “I don’t have a clue what I
want to do”.
Slow down and
It is hard to
be mindful if we are running around and multi-tasking.
It is rare to see anyone sitting quietly anymore. At
every restaurant, airport, park, and beach people are
addicted to Blackberries and iPhones. Are we afraid to
ago, I went to Sardinia for vacation. I decided to
leave my cell phone home. It seemed like a great idea
until I got to the airport. Could I do it? Be out of
touch for ten days? You would have thought I was kicking
a drug habit. I began to get nervous, my inner voices
went nuts and my heart was pounding like a base drum.
To be brief,
it took me a few days to “detach” from my addiction to
intensity and then a miracle happened. I began to move
slower, my senses were heightened and my focus was on
the present moment. My energy flowed smoothly like
running water and I was truly in the flow of life.
To truly be
mindful we must recover that which has been lost in an
increasingly fast-paced, frenetic reality.
Here are some
suggestions that I find to be helpful:
using cell phones, Blackberries, iPhones, and Computers
a break. Take an hour, a day, or a weekend and leave the
equipment home. In my corporate teachings, I see a trend
to have people check in their devices before a meeting
to avoid distractions. Yes, we can see you texting under
The breath is the key to meditation
When we are tense or anxious, we tend to hold our
breath. The breath is the key to finding inner peace and
harmony. It is our link with our bodies and the world.
For most of us, breathing is something we never think
about, yet, for the most part, we are breathing shallow
breaths into our chest. This shallow breathing creates
a stressful condition in our minds and bodies. By
slowing down your breath, you will instantly relax your
body and bring clarity into your mind.
you can breathe into your heart center. Take a few slow
deep breaths. Inhale to the count of 4, hold, and exhale
to the count of 4.
represents a different emotion.
Index: fear, terror, pain
Middle: anger, rage, resentment
worry, anxiety, nervousness
Small: lack of self esteem, victim
finger for about 5 minutes.
Recognize and acknowledge emotions.
Breathe out and let go.
Let feelings drain out of you into Earth.
Breathe in harmony and strength.
Copyright © 2009 Barbara Biziou. All Rights Reserved.
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