Feng Shui and a Person's Elemental Traits
What challenges face two people with similar traits in making a relationship
work. We took your elemental tests in your book "Feng Shui and How to Look
Before You Love" and discovered we are both "expressed
waters/hidden fires." Are there specific colors or shapes to use in a home to counter-act potential
challenges that similarity might foster?
Thank you so much for your help! Keep up the good work!
BA, San Diego, CA
Since feng shui is about how a physical environment affects how you act,
react and interact, it is not inappropriate to consider how the people living
there affect the feeling of a space. A dining room is a good example of how a
room takes on another personality when filled by people. A dining room may
feel still and serene, when empty and stimulating when in use. Thus, it is
important to determine what qualities those who inhabit a space bring to its
experience as well as determining how a couple's elements might affect each
other and what can be done in a physical environment to ward off potential
clashes and enhance the benefits of a relationship.
The readers of this Rx's for Living column might not be familiar with these
tests in my fourth book:" Feng Shui and How to Look Before You Love" that
uncovers a person's elemental proclivities. So here's the first test that
reveals a person's personality element which I call expressed element. You
will learn what element your personality relates to. The second test uncovers
the hidden or emotional element and is not shown here.
Which Element Are You?
Element Test #1
Answer yes or no. Pick one that most often applies.
1. Do you plan what you'll get done each day and most often accomplish it?
2. Are you slow to form opinions and only reluctantly alter them?
3. Do you cry at most weddings, emotional movies and happy events?
4. Are you constantly thinking, musing or planning?
5. Do you tend to change brands of toothpaste, toilet paper or laundry soap
6. Do you make up your mind quickly?
7. Do others seek your advice?
8. Is it easy for you to understand why some people display extreme emotions?
9. Are you able to hold your emotions in check most of the time and not
reveal how you feel?
10. Is it hard for you to understand why some people cannot change a
11. Do you enjoy the process more than the results?
12. Are you unable to hold back expressing your opinion?
13. Do you thrive on competition and feel ambitious?
14. Are you content to spend time alone and do not need to socialize all the
15. Are you the one if your family or circle of friends who keeps the peace?
Scoring Test #1
The answers will reveal your elemental personality.
If you answered yes for #1 #6 #12 score 1 for fire
If you answered yes for #2, #7 #14 score 1 for earth
If you answered yes for #3 #8 #15 score 1 for water
If you answered yes for #4 #9 #11 score 1 for metal
If you answered yes for #5 #10 #13 score 1 for wood
You may find you have an equal number of one or more elements.
Since both you and your partner have the same mix, which is expressed
water/hidden fire, you have to be careful to not let your natural proclivity
to erupt emotionally (hidden fire does that) become a stumbling block in
communication. Expressed water types have personalities that naturally want
to be mediators. What makes it hard is that while people with this
combination are good listeners often emotions are raging inside. The
downside is that both of you may not allow these emotions to rise to the
surface because they seem too explosive for your calm and caring personality
What can be done to help you deal with these hidden or unexpressed emotions
is to add the earth element which include the colors or gold, terra cotta,
tans, browns and salmons and the shapes - square, solid and low to the
ground. These choices will help convert the highly charged emotions into a
less tempestuous expression. It is critical in a healthy relationship to
find a way to express all feelings appropriately. Earth colors and shapes
are the tickets for the two of you.
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