by Sirah Vettese, Ph.D.
Intention is where it all begins. Intention is
stronger than will because it can be set into action
instantly. Even if your will was crushed at an early
age, your intention will give you strength. It is
through loving intention that loving choices are made
and devotion expressed. Without loving intention, change
does not occur. First and foremost, you must know that
you have the power of love in your heart. When you do,
intention will provide the follow-through. The benefits
that will accrue to your relationships are
extraordinary. Intention is what ends disputes and
breaks down the walls of fear, mistrust and
misunderstanding that separate individuals, groups, and
nations. Intention is the tool with which our hearts dig
down to places where the walls are thick with confusion
and pain. Intention is as basic to lasting relationships
as the earth is to the tree that grows from it.
Heaven within is depended on the food of your
intention, which is driven by your power. Always use
power for your own growth. Others will feel its ripple
and grow with you. Use intention to direct your power
and allow it to lead you to the next chapter of life.
Loving intention --- the active, positive use of our
heartís energy Ė always leads to resolution.
The good upon which you place your attention grows
stronger and leads to resolution. You speed up your
spiritual growth when you put loving intention before
all other concerns. When you focus here you find
Often, the emptiness that we feel inside is directly
related to lack of direction and purpose in our lives.
If we supply the intention to love, suddenly our purpose
becomes clear. We have a place to go!
All of the great spiritual teachers show us that
loving intention is the key to unlocking and using the
full powers of the heart. It never fails to open a door.
You will be loved back when loving intention guides your
actions. You multiply the gifts of the heart by
one-hundred every time you operate from this potent
position. Instead of a loss of physical energy, which is
what many women feel when they are put down, dumped on,
or attacked in some way, you experience an increase in
both emotional and physical energy when you direct
negative force away from you and focus your intention to
love and heal on the source of negativity. While it may
feel like a leap in the dark, what have you got to lose
but a moment in the unknown?
The Power of Caring
The Caring heart is
more powerful than any physical force on earth.
Scientific studies have proven that open, loving
behaviors not only reduce stress in the individual who
does the loving, but in those who receive the love. Your
love has bioenergetic energy. It projects a magnetic
charge, creating a positive field around the person to
whom you direct it.
The following two-step
technique reveals the power in the caring heart. Go
through the process once using only your imagination.
Then, implement the process when you are in a difficult
situation with your partner.
Step 1: Imagine
that your partner is angry and acting in a hostile and
fearful way. Perhaps he is lashing out at you verbally
or sending you raging vibrations through his behavior.
The goal is to protect yourself from this aggressive
energy, at the same time staying open and loving.
Directly in front of
your heart, imagine a flowing river that takes all of
the anger away. You must be patient and wait as the rage
quiets down and negative emotions are spent. As you
wait, remain focused on the river protecting your heart.
Donít move up to your mind and try to make sense of
what is being thrown your way. The information is coming
from his wounded heart and can only hurt your heart if
you try to explain it. Rational interpretations wonít
work, so just remain inside of your loving heart and
allow the negative attacks to flow away from you.
When all is calm, imagine that your heart has eyes and
can see all the way into the soul that hides beneath his
anger. Underneath all of the pain and rage is the
tender, caring person you fell in love with. The attack
has defused his energy, and you are able to look deeply.
An old image of love shared between the two of you may
float across your visual screen. Keep your seeing heart
focused on his. Send him a psychic message of love that
reaches him at his core. Trust that this is happening
and remain focused. The power your have within your
heart is beyond imagination, but imagination is needed
to build your belief in that power. When you place your
attention on your heartís power, rather than feeling
defeated and running away emotionally, your love causes
changes and growth to occur in you and in your partner.
All that you dream of having comes to your through the
power of your caring heart.
Remember, it is very
important to imagine this experience from beginning to
end before actually trying it. Mental rehearsal will
give you the confidence you need when you are challenged
to use the process in real life.
This process can have
profound effects on you, too, leading to a more
efficient use of your power. Dramatic and subtle changes
occur with repeated use of this technique on your love
His pain, anger, and aggression belong to him. My heartís
energy is best spent in compassion, which allows me to
see beyond his hurt into his soul.
© Sirah Vettese,
Ph.D. Excerpted from
"What Happened to the Prince I Married: Spiritual Healing for Wounded
Love" Aslan Publishing 1999.
Sirah Vettese, Ph.D. has
been a practicing counselor since 1979. She is also a health educator, writer, seminar leader and author of numerous best-selling health audio programs. She is the co-author of "LIFEMATES, The Love Fitness Program For A Lasting Relationship," and author of "What Happened to the Prince I Married: Spiritual Healing for Wounded Love."
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