My Life of Sundays
by Kathryn L.
The following is an excerpt from A Life of
Sundays: Contemplations for Seeking the Sacred in Everyday
Life. Still in search of a publisher, this little book,
written by the author of Spiritual Housecleaning:
Healing the Space Inside by Beautifying the Space Around You
(New Harbinger Publications, 2001), is divided into three
sections: "Time Is Money," "Never Give
Up," and "Rest." Each of the seven words in
these loaded phrases is also a Chapter Heading. On top of
that, each chapter has an additional seven segments, all
representing the seven days of the week ó the seventh, of
course, being set aside for sacred rest. But what if every
day is sacred, and a restful awareness is part of each day?
For this yearís opening topic, "Living
Soulfully," I have chosen to contribute segments Three
and Four in the chapter called "TIME." Hereís to
living a soulful life.
Letís talk about the importance of having a "real
job." Most of us, men and women both, spend a huge
portion of our lives working for someone else. This is what
keeps the world going round, right? Well, no, the world goes
around by itself. The planet thrives outside of time or inside
of time, weíre not sure which, but itís our world
that needs to be pushed along by jobs. Work. What part of you
wants to spend your life at work? Probably, the part that
wants to be a regular person, to live a normal life, or to
have an income that makes you comfortable. That part of you
probably needs a job to get those things. And while that might
be the biggest part of most people, it is so small a part of
your soul that itís a wonder we can get past Monday
You could skip Mondays and go straight to Tuesday, but then
Tuesday would be your Monday and there youíd be, struggling
to get past it. The same is true of Wednesdays and so on. This
is silly, I know, but it is a shame that being a regular
person, living a normal life, and having a comfortable income
takes up the greater part of most people nowadays. In this
land of individualism, consider being irregular for just a
moment. Would you mind so much having an irregular life?
Perhaps it could be extraordinary. Itís a free country. What
keeps you from the freedom to choose the way you spend your
time on this planet? The kids, the parents, the spouse, the
pets, the bills, the upbringing, and on and on. What else
could you be doing? What other part of yourself could you be
Being? Just for today, choose against the ordinary. Donít
just do something, sit there. Be there.
If the only extra time you have is a coffee break or
standing in line at the bank, take it to a different level
than you normally do. If you usually spend this time chatting
on the phone, spend this one quietly, read maybe. If you
usually read, today listen to a new CD. If you frequently
kvetch and complain, give compliments; if you typically listen
to the news, people-watch instead. Listen to the sounds around
you ó both the natural and the mechanized ó and take it
in. This is what your ordinary surroundings are. Have you even
noticed? Sometimes you have to step out of the norm, to
understand its effect on you. Take that time. Just today.
If you could make more time for something in your life,
what would it be? Family? Art? Reading? Yourself? Travel?
Creativity? Work? Do you need more time to "get things
done?" I donít know how working people with children do
it ó get things done, sleep, keep from going crazy. If you
feel like youíre barely doing it ó keeping from going
crazy, that is ó then youíre at a crossroads.
You will either find a way to make more time to get your
needs met, or youíll need to start saving money to handle
all the healthcare problems youíre going to have. Not to
mention the family problems. I donít need to cite the many
studies that show the biggest problem facing people today is
not having enough time. Divorce, juvenile delinquency,
stress-related diseases, and ignorance that begets bigotry,
poor job performance, misunderstandings, all can be traced to
not having enough time. Time is what you need to do what you
need to do, to be with the people who need you, to take care
of yourself, and to learn what you need to know.
A friend of mine once pointed out that in this day and age
you are going to be short one thing or the other: time or
money. Itís rare when you have both. That was fifteen years
ago. These days, itís rare when you have either. Itís
definitely great to have money. You can buy a lot with it,
justice even. But you canít buy love or happiness with
money. You need time to make love and to make love work. You
need time to cultivate happiness. Make sure you make time to
live, and not just use time to make a living. Remember, if
only for today, to buy some time for love.
Who and/or what do you love? Pay for a babysitter and spend
some time alone with your spouse without the kids, maybe just
to sleep like in the commercial. Pay someone to clean your
house or do your laundry, and use that freed-up time to be
with someone special. Youíve got four hours minimum, take
yourself out to someplace different. An art museum, a Japanese
tea room, a health spa. Itís only for today. You canít
afford not to.
Copyright © 2002 Kathryn L. Robyn.
All Rights Reserved.
Kathryn L. Robyn is an author, healing coach, and
Reiki Master in private practice in Los Angeles, California.
Ms. Robyn has led transformational workshops and support
groups for over fifteen years, working with organizations
such as Child Help USA, The Alcoholism Center for Women, The
Healing Light Center and Alive and Well.
Working in tandem with physicians, therapists and
alternative medicine practitioners, Ms. Robyn has guided
hundreds of people through the healing process, helping men
and women recover from childhood and adult traumas and
substance abuse, leaving them stronger and more connected with
She is the author of Spiritual Housecleaning: Healing
the Space Within by Beautifying the Space Around You (New
Harbinger Publications, 2001). For more information visit her
official website at www.emotionalhouse.com.
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