|
Karen
offers her
spiritual insights for "being present"
in all aspects of life, by calling upon the techniques
of her four guiding principles,
MESHE, HESHE, MISON & ORBIT.
Manifesting Your Perfect Partner with Personal Truthz
Last week, I introduced the workshop title, Finding
Your Perfect Mate, to my weekly MESHE Group classes
and, oh what a stir arose! I laugh at myself now, but I
truly was surprised to see how popular demystifying the
process of finding a life partner could be.
I’ve been married for awhile, and I admit I’d
forgotten the challenging years of wanting to have a
meaningful relationship and getting short-lived
disappointments instead. After seeing the group members'
excited faces, I remembered that point in my life when I
realized that my failed relationships were equal to that
which I did not yet know about myself.
What was good about the short-lived relationships was
that they helped to show me who I really was. What was
less than desirable, however, was that they also brought
with them some rather complicated situations and often
painful lessons for myself and my partners. So I set out
on a new path to pursue my perfect mate by finding my
Personal Truthz.
Personal Truthz is the knowledge we all have about
ourselves, revealed and unjudged. If you think about
Personal Truthz as an invisible room filled with
invisible furniture, and you then imagine yourself
navigating through this room, you’ll get a good idea
of what it is to explore and discover your Personal
Truthz. It’s a lot of bumping around! Bump into a
table once and remember it. Don’t remember it and you’ll
bump into it again.
So, let’s say we choose to remember a table and a
chair we bumped into in the back left corner of the
invisible room, and that we do so by throwing a sheet on
top of them both. Now, when we enter the room we clearly
see that there is a chair in the far corner with a small
table beside it. Think of the chair and table as
something true about yourself, and the sheet as your
decision to take responsibility for that information.
This is what it means to be in the process of finding
our Personal Truthz - detecting, and then owning, the
otherwise invisible landscape of our own individual
truth.
The process of finding out what is true for us is a
prayer in-and-of itself. A prayer filled with patience
and confession. Manifestation is the result of that
prayer and begins when we allow the truth of what we
really want and need to be revealed. Standing in the
truth of what we know about ourselves creates the
magnetism necessary for material things to collect and
form.
We can use our will to create what we think we want
in life, but often those creations turn into powerful
disappointments. If we slow down and relax a little bit,
we can take our time and use our heart and truth to
create that which is lasting and satisfying for us.
Applying our Personal Truthz to our Lifetime Dreams
& Goals is the one-two punch for happiness!
So, let’s say that finding a life partner is one of
our Lifetime Dreams & Goals, and we want to apply
Personal Truthz to finding our perfect mate.
If you combine a high degree of compatibility with
love and a shared path, you will have the makings for a
long, wondrous partnership. The following Compatibility
List was taught to me by my meditation teacher who uses
it as the measuring stick for the referred to "high
degree of compatibility." Many good teachers have
written such lists, but this one is my personal
favorite.
Making a Compatibility List can be a confusing task.
For years, I, and everyone else I knew, tended to write
down some bizarre, idealized version of ourselves where
we were super committed, super disciplined and
superhuman. For months, page after page of "the
person we’d be if we could be a perfect person"
came pouring out of all of us!
The idea that any one of us could have lived with
such a person is very funny now. But at the time we were
not experiencing the truth about ourselves, and thus the
traits we would find compatible. We were, instead, still
believing that we had to perfect ourselves in order to
be loved.
So let’s get in touch with our Personal Truthz and
check out this list!
Compatibility List
Practical Information
Personal Interests
Health Practices
Philosophical & Moral Attitudes
Educational Background
Taste
Social Style
Spiritual & Religious Interests
Love Style
Professional & Financial Goals
All right, I’m going to tackle the
politically incorrect category of Practical Information.
This area includes age, gender, height, body type,
coloring, all those things that, for the most part,
people cannot change.
Envision your ideal mate and think about these
details in terms of what works for you - what really
works for you, and what does not. This is not a judgment
against others, it is a confession about yourself.
In a perfect world, what do you really want? What do
you really need? What really matters to you, and what
does not? This is the time and place to say to yourself,
"coloring, height and body type of are of no
consequence to me." It is the time and place to
admit to yourself that, "I like deep black eyes,
curly black hair, and men with broad shoulders."
The time to confess that you need to be with someone of
or about your own age. That younger than you is not what
you need. That younger than you is just what you need.
Or that age is of no consequence.
The answers to these questions are your Personal
Truthz. The admission of your Truthz is the prayer sent
out into the Universe and the means by which the process
of manifestation begins. So, give thanks now for all
that is coming your way.
I remember trying to put "a full head of thick
hair" onto my list and realizing that, while I
enjoyed playing with my boyfriend’s hair, it was not a
priority. However, I discovered that having someone
taller than me was. I am a big person and I like a lot
of room around myself, but I’d tended to date men
shorter, smaller, or the same size as me. I realized
that if I had my druthers, I’d prefer tall,
substantially sized partners. And guess what? After I
admitted that to myself, I began to meet and date
taller, more physically commanding men.
Remember, the purpose here is not to indulge all your
superficial ideas of a perfect mate, but to confess to
yourself what you really want, need, and desire. Don’t
judge your answers! Believe me, if Mr. or Ms. Right
comes along with a 90% hit rate on your Compatibility
List, and they have brown hair instead of red, you’ll
be just fine - and, more to the point, the reason you
will be fine is because you are conscious of this fact,
and not because you are unconscious of it.
Be daring, be truthful and be aware. Notice what you
find important and what you don’t, and write those
Personal Truthz down.
Go through all of the categories in this way,
allowing yourself to tell the secrets of your
preferences in a safe, protected place. And don’t be
afraid of what might materialize as a result! I remember
when I was unable to put "full head of hair"
on my list how frightened I became envisioning a square
bald head across the breakfast table every morning for
the rest of my life!
And yet, my truth had nothing to do with my fears.
Rather, it had everything to do with what was and was
not important to me. Let this process be about
manifesting with your Personal Truthz and seeing what
kind of world that brings to your door.
When you write down your answers, set them aside for
a day or two, and when you come back to them, cross out
anything that does not honestly portray the
"you" that is living today. Tend to this list
before, during, and after new relationships. When a
relationship fails, use the knowledge to add more
clarity to your list. If finding a compatible mate is
truly one of your goals, then let this list be a part of
your total movement in life.
Manifesting your perfect mate is a process that
begins with you discovering your Personal Truthz.
Manifesting any of your wants, needs and desires will
begin the same way. Take the chances in life that you
want, and embark on them with a Personal Truthz
inventory of how you feel, what you want, and what you
need. Be it a job, a relocation, or a deeper
understanding of the world, your path to materializing
your deepest desires lies in the admission of what you
know to be true.
May you have a safe and wondrous holiday! And may all
your prayers and wishes manifest in the upcoming New
Year!
© Copyright 2001 Karen Deborah
Farris.
Read
Karen's Current "Being Present" Column
Read
Karen's Past Columns:
November
2001 - "Remembering What We Already Know"
September
2001 - "Be Led By What You Are Trying to
Avoid"
August
2001 - "Draw Your Way to Clarity, Health &
Balance"
June
2001 - "Tending to the Negative Mind"
May
2001 - "Gentle Conscious Living"
April
2001 - "MISON and The Moment"
March
2001 - "The MESHE Concept - A Path to Soulful
Living"
Karen Deborah Farris is a successful counselor, healer, and bodyworker. For more than fifteen years she has taught extensive workshops based on MESHE, HESHE, MISON & ORBIT as well as many other self-discovery topics.
Farris began developing her integrated bodywork and counseling techniques in 1984 under the tutelage of many prominent doctors and healers throughout the United States.
Her education into the spiritual and physical aspects of the human experience served as the foundation for her own private practice and the development of a new philosophy. She combined her techniques into four guiding principles, which she shares in her book,
MESHE, HESHE, MISON & ORBIT: What My Grandmother Taught Me About the Universe. She is currently touring with a companion workshop series, where she creates an interactive environment demonstrating the material from her book with tangible, life altering effects. In these workshops, individuals discover a deepening of their relationship to self, others and the world around them.
Through individual counseling and group workshops, she has taught her results-oriented programs to many different types of people
including those confined to mental institutions, substance and food abusers, and generally, people in life transitions, struggling with intimate relationships, or who lack direction in their lives. Karen lives happily with her husband in Southern California.
Visit www.MESHE.com.
For more
information, contact Karen at: info@MESHE.com
|
