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How
Can You Uncover Another's
Authentic Self?
by Nancilee Wydra |
Feng shui and personality aren’t usually spoken
about in the same breath, however today science is
uncovering the fact that nothing in our world is
isolated from enmeshment from all things. Hence our
habitat must have some authority over who we are and how
we become. Not only does an environment influence us but
also we shape an environment in the image of ourselves.
In other words, we shape the spaces around us because of
who we are. You can look at how someone decorates their
home and uncover something about their soul.
In my fourth book on feng shui, Feng Shui and How
to Look Before You Love, I tackle the question of
how to read an environment to reveal who a person
authentically is. Hormones can shape personality. I am
not along in this endeavor, Debra Neihoff in her 1999
book, The Biology of Violence, (The Free Press, a
division of Simon and Schuster, Inc.) speaks about brain
chemistry as well as hormonal mixes being a strong
determinant when identifying individuals who might
become social deviants. Scientist, J. Scott Turner
suggests that our genotype, the set of genes we are
dealt is expressed by the phenotype or their physical
manifestation in an environmental soup. His book The
Extended Organism (2000 Harvard University Press)
clarifies how a habitat "serves as a kind of nexus
where elemental processes within the organism commingle
with those of the environment." (New York Times
Book Review Dec 7, 2000 page 37) People can’t help but
to reveal themselves by the choices they make in their
home.
My book Feng Shui and How to Look Before You Love,
(Contemporary Books, 1998) is totally devoted to
teaching you how to read a person’s environment in
order to uncover their authentic self. Whether it is to
select a lover, business partner, or a new friend, when
opening our hearts to another it is poignant to
acknowledge how much hold they potentially could exert
in our lives. For that reason, we need to approach
others with an open heart, yet evaluate them honestly.
Being able to discern emotional characteristics, values
and inherent personality by studying the choices of
objects and their position in an environment can prevent
us from giving our hearts away to a phantom of what we
thought.
The following is a brief reference guide to
understanding what placement of certain common objects
reveal about the individual who has control over
choosing and placing.
| Characteristic |
What
They Will Have |
| Positive
self-image |
Adequate
furnishings supplied for all endeavors |
| Desire
to understand |
Accessible
books and interesting art to the left of the entrance to
the main gathering room |
| Connection
with community and others is important |
Photographs
of past family events, telephone near comfortable
seating |
| Ability
to be successful |
Positive
images in art work in the far left hand side of most
rooms |
| Flexibility
when confronting the future |
Art
work that depicts hope and is not of one isolated object |
It is not by accident that a recent client, who
almost consistently selected women who were
fundamentally not interested in making binding
attachments with him, selected a picture of a solo man
riding a bicycle upside down in his relationship
corner. (The relationship corner of a room is the one
furthest on the right when entering a room) We relate
to art images because they speak truthfully to us, if
only subconsciously. My client felt like that man
standing on his head riding blindly forward into his
destiny. We reveal ourselves authentically and
fundamentally by what we have chosen to surround
ourselves with. Look closely at your home and consider
its messages.
Nancilee Wydra, most published American author on feng shui has just released
her sixth book, Feng Shui for Children's Spaces. Her Website,
www.EfengshuiUSA.com
has free answers to the most frequently asked feng shui questions. Founder
of the Feng Shui Institute of America that holds nationwide professional
training workshops, Ms. Wydra has taken a complex ancient subject and updated
it for contemporary times. For information call toll free 888-488-FSIA.
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